celebrating your small wins

yesterday I spent some time with my friend and we were talking about our goals for the future, planning creative projects, manifesting our future then she said something that has stuck with me.

she shared a story with me of her conversation of her and client where she was telling her client of what she has achieved in the past year of her business and her clients reaction made her realise actually how much she had actually achieved. 

everything she had been achieving had become so “normal” to her and she was manifesting her future that the things she had achieved had passed her by. 

this has majorly inspired me to write this post because we spend so much time focusing on the future and what else we can achieve and make ourselves better - that sometimes we forget to be in the now and actually celebrate all the LITTLE things we have achieved. 

there was a time when past us would only dream to be where we are now and yet sometimes we just don't appreciate it. 

i remember being in Mexico, and dreaming of having my jewellery business- I would day dream of all the content I would be creating, looking at jewellery that I had no idea how I would even create, creating a community and having people wear my pieces. 

now I have actual human beings who I have made deep connections with wearing my pieces and feeling deeply connected to them. I am taking weekly jewellery classes an have my own studio where I can create and design my dream pieces. 

yet there are times where I am dreaming of my next project and wondering when I am going to be where I want to be.

so now I vow to celebrate every single little win that I have. I vow to feel the gratitude in every purchase, in every follower, in every piece I create and just enjoy the process. 

there is something called “arrival fallacy” it is where people strive to achieve a goal for years and years (like Olympic winners or boxers) and they often finally achieve their goal and the thing they’ve been working so hard to achieve and then when they finally get it, they feel empty and sad. 

I feel like this can because they have been so focused on the end goal and not embraced the journey and the little wins along the way.

that it why it is so important to be present in the journey. celebrating the chapters as they come. noticing and being so grateful for all the little things.

 it will make you feel so much more grateful for what you already have and sometimes you can be blind to the beauty all around you - sometimes people want to move out and as soon as they move all their stuff out they fall back in love with their home and realised they didn’t want to get rid of it anyway, they just needed to see the beauty in what they already have. 

Here are ways to celebrate your small wins: 

• Daily journal the things you’ve achieved during the day - little small things. That you can look back on. Or do a weekly or monthly list of the things you have achieved.
• Share your wins; create a group chat with your friends solely to celebrate each others small wins, talk to your family, share on social media! 
• Reward yourself with something you love to give yourself a little pack on the back and a well done. 
• Take breaks and reflect on how you are doing and what you have achieved (especially if things are going wrong)
• Be more present everyday - stop worrying about the future and the past, be in the now and focus on the present moment and you will be more awake and aware of all the small wins that are happening around you.
• Throw yourself a yearly well done party!! Whether it just be for yourself, or with your friends. Just celebrate yourself and all the little things you’ve achieved.
• Take time out and relax and enjoy your hard work by doing NOTHING. 
• Write yourself a letter or a hand written note for the future of all the things you’ve achieved so future you can also be reminded. 

Nothing is “too small” of a win, sometimes we can think our “small wins” are too small to celebrate - where someone else would be like WOW THAT IS AMAZING. Never think something is too small. Celebrate each and every win.

You deserve it. 

All my love,

Tilly xx